Lights Please….

Christmas is my favourite time of year. I never get stressed out about it, because my focus has always been on the thing that is most important to me, my family. The people that are my family are, of course, my husband, and my kids. But there are also people who have come into my life that are my “adopted” family.

 “A Charlie Brown Christmas”

When I was a child, in the days before any type of recorded TV shows, I waited in anticipation for the night it would be shown. I never missed watching it, and I could recite Linus’s speech, word for word.

I loved watching that show again when my own children were young and seeing it through their eyes. We could record it, and watch it over and over again, and we did! I think I watched it more than the kids did, and every time Linus said “lights, please”, I would repeat his speech along with him.

I read a comment by the person who posted the clip. After all the times that I have watched that show, and focused on that scene, she brought my attention to something that I missed. Take a minute to watch it here.

Did you see it? When Linus says, “fear not” he drops his blanket! That security blanket that he carries everywhere. The one that Sally tried to get him to give up earlier in the show. He came up with all kinds of reasons that he could hang on to it.

How many times have we seen something, but not really seen it?  For years I had been looking at that scene with the eyes of a child.  I missed the most important part of it. We look at people and see what we want to see, and miss the signs that they are showing us.

A wise friend of mine, Sharon Joseph, reminds us that there is only love or fear, and if we are living in one, we cannot be in the other. So many choices are made from fear of failure, fear of success, or fear of not being enough. If we live in love for self, then we take care of ourselves. We set healthy boundaries and know that “failure” is just a lesson that we need to learn.

My wish for you this Christmas is that you give yourself the greatest gift of all, the gift of love. Then you can share it with the people in your life.

Merry Christmas!

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Blueberries are red when they are green

I recently learned an interesting fact about blueberries. Apparently wild blueberries can’t be planted. They grow by sending out runners under ground, creating clones of the parent plant. There can be various clones in a field of blueberry plants, and that’s why there can be many shades, sizes and flavours in the same area.

So, the way to “cultivate” wild blueberries is to clear the area around the plants, cutting down trees, removing the stumps and leveling the land. Over time the original plants will send out runners, and new plants will grow.

That got me thinking about how we cultivate relationships, Continue reading “Blueberries are red when they are green”

A Pressing Engagement

I have had annual mammograms for about the last 10 years. I started them early because of my mother’s history of breast cancer, and the way it snuck up on all of us when she was in her early 40’s. I will tell the story of that journey another time. Suffice it to say that when my doctor suggested that I start having this procedure, I took it seriously. Continue reading “A Pressing Engagement”