Work of Heart 2018 was a magical experience of love and light. For me the weekend started on Friday night when I gathered at the Hotel Wingate in Dieppe, NB, with a group of women, led by founder Angela Harris. We each received a workbook and a contract for us to sign, the Work of Heart Weekend Pledge. It gave us permission to focus on ourselves, and to allow us to be open to trusting the process. During discussions that evening, many of the younger women spoke of feelings of guilt at taking this time for themselves. Those of us in our 50’s could commiserate with them, and we shared our experiences of getting through that and realizing that this type of self care was the best gift not only for ourselves, but for our loved ones. We were joined by Tracey MacDonald, who was one of the speakers for Saturday’s main event, and her input really helped to set the tone for the weekend and made me even more excited to hear her presentation. Continue reading “Work of Heart 2018”
I am almost ashamed to admit it now but there was a time when one of my favorite sayings was “Build a bridge and get over it.” I quoted it to friends who were struggling with how to move on from difficult situations.
I meant well with those words. I thought it was good advice. Figuratively building a bridge to get from one place to another, and a way over difficult terrain. I haven’t thought about or used that phrase in a long time. I was reminded of it today when I was in my driveway because I could hear the noise from the machines that are pounding the steel supports into the ground for the new bridge that is being built to replace the causeway between Moncton and Riverview. Continue reading “Building Bridges”
The story of how we started and I found the love of my life.
My family moved to Moncton in the summer of 1981. I started school at Moncton High in grade 12, the final year of high school not knowing a soul. It was a challenge for me to make friends as the social groups were pretty well formed by that point. So I tried out for the school musical, “Anne of Green Gables”, one of my all-time favourite stories.
We have three cats in our house, and that means I spend a fair bit of time cleaning the litter boxes. Today, while I was at this task, I realized that even though Forrest Gump says that life is like a box of chocolates, it can also be a lot like litter boxes. Here are some of the lessons that I have learned: Continue reading “Lessons from the litter box”
Christmas is my favourite time of year. I never get stressed out about it, because my focus has always been on the thing that is most important to me, my family. The people that are my family are, of course, my husband, and my kids. But there are also people who have come into my life that are my “adopted” family.
“A Charlie Brown Christmas”
When I was a child, in the days before any type of recorded TV shows, I waited in anticipation for the night it would be shown. I never missed watching it, and I could recite Linus’s speech, word for word.
I loved watching that show again when my own children were young and seeing it through their eyes. We could record it, and watch it over and over again, and we did! I think I watched it more than the kids did, and every time Linus said “lights, please”, I would repeat his speech along with him.
I read a comment by the person who posted the clip. After all the times that I have watched that show, and focused on that scene, she brought my attention to something that I missed. Take a minute to watch it here.
Did you see it? When Linus says, “fear not” he drops his blanket! That security blanket that he carries everywhere. The one that Sally tried to get him to give up earlier in the show. He came up with all kinds of reasons that he could hang on to it.
How many times have we seen something, but not really seen it? For years I had been looking at that scene with the eyes of a child. I missed the most important part of it. We look at people and see what we want to see, and miss the signs that they are showing us.
A wise friend of mine, Sharon Joseph, reminds us that there is only love or fear, and if we are living in one, we cannot be in the other. So many choices are made from fear of failure, fear of success, or fear of not being enough. If we live in love for self, then we take care of ourselves. We set healthy boundaries and know that “failure” is just a lesson that we need to learn.
My wish for you this Christmas is that you give yourself the greatest gift of all, the gift of love. Then you can share it with the people in your life.
I recently learned an interesting fact about blueberries. Apparently wild blueberries can’t be planted. They grow by sending out runners underground, creating clones of the parent plant. There can be various clones in a field of blueberry plants, and that’s why there can be many shades, sizes and flavours in the same area. Continue reading “Blueberries are red when they are green”
I have had annual mammograms for about the last 10 years. I started them early because of my mother’s history of breast cancer, and the way it snuck up on all of us when she was in her early 40’s. I will tell the story of that journey another time. Suffice it to say that when my doctor suggested that I start having this procedure, I took it seriously. Continue reading “A Pressing Engagement”