Use The Force: Lessons from Yoda

“May the Force Be With You”

Five years ago, this week I walked out of the job I had into an uncertain future. The geek in me is pleased to say that it was on May the fourth.  I loved the work I had been doing, but the atmosphere of bullying and harassment had taken its toll on me. To be honest, I had almost left several times, but had always talked myself out of it. Worrying about paying bills and having health insurance coverage kept me there longer than I should have been. This time however, I heard myself say the words ‘I have to go” and felt my body get up and move to the door. No time to think about it, no time to change my mind. Continue reading “Use The Force: Lessons from Yoda”

How Shakira and Jennifer Lopez helped me get my fire back.

Shakira and Jennifer Lopez helped me get my fire back. Or rather, the fallout from their show did.

Shakira and Jennifer Lopez performed at the Super Bowl half time show and the internet lost its mind. That’s the short version of this story. The long version is so much more interesting than that. Continue reading “How Shakira and Jennifer Lopez helped me get my fire back.”

What it means to be a Black Belt.

 I tested for my Black Belt in Tae Kwon Do in December 2009. I wrote this essay for Master Lessard, who was one of my instructors. Patrick, Meaghan and I started off as his students, and when he moved to Chung Won Tae Kwon Do, we followed him there. When Patrick and Meaghan tested for their first Dan Black Belt, they had to complete 200 double kicks on the heavy bag, without stopping, and write a 1000 word essay. Even though it was not a requirement for me, I also completed those tasks. I recently found this essay and realized the lessons still apply, maybe even more than ever.

Four years ago, on September 22, 2005, I tested for my orange belt. This was the start of the journey that has brought me to today, a week away from testing for my black belt. Along the way, I have learned a lot about who I am and what is important to me. Continue reading “What it means to be a Black Belt.”

“The Rocky Horror Show” and me

Science Fiction Double Feature*

I first heard about The Rocky Horror Picture Show in 1979, from my friend Laurie after she saw the movie with her older brother. I wasn’t allowed to go to the midnight show, so I learned about it second-hand.  She had the soundtrack, and it wasn’t long before our group of friends knew every word to every song, and we did the “Time Warp” again and again. Continue reading ““The Rocky Horror Show” and me”

The Goal is Freedom: Other Wise

“How often do you do things for other people that you don’t feel like doing?”—Alicia Stafford, YWWL meeting, Nov 2, 2019.

These words gutted me and brought me to tears for the third time that day. I had gone for my weekly weigh-in at Your Way Weight Loss, and I was up . 8 pounds. Alicia looked at me and asked if I was surprised, and I had to honestly answer, no. It still made me tear up with frustration and anger and self-hate. She repeated the words she had said to me several times before. “We need to work on consistency.” That’s not true.  I need to work on consistency. Continue reading “The Goal is Freedom: Other Wise”

Dear Younger Self

Dear younger self. Here you are on the day of your Christening, with all your grandparents. Nan Torraville is holding you. She will be gone before your second birthday, but you will feel her presence with you all your life. You are named Michelle, but you will be known as Shelly.

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Creating a New Metabolic Mindset

This post is sponsored by Metabolic Mindset. All content and opinions are my own.

I first met Geoff Vacon of Metabolic Mindset when we were both working at a retail store in the fall of 2018, and I immediately recognized him as “one of my people”.  I found out that he was from Halifax, and living in Moncton while he was taking a course to become a paramedic, and we had a lot of friends in common.

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Relationship Lessons

I learn lessons in so many unexpected ways. This is how I learned about the power of building a strong relationship.

I recently shared a post on my personal Facebook page. Nothing unusual about that. It had come up on my newsfeed a couple of times. The first time I scrolled by, not bothering to read it. The next time it came up I looked a bit closer. It had been shared a couple of times by people that I knew from a bloggers group I belong to, so I clicked on the link. It doesn’t matter what the content was about, because that is not the point of this blog. Continue reading “Relationship Lessons”